Since posting last I have been thinking a lot about adoption. Big surprise huh? I have thought a lot about birth parents, about the adoption processes, being a mom, Sean being a dad, about how we are building our family and everything in between. I came to a conclusion today, although I have had this thought before, today it tied everything together: Adoption is all about Family!
When you have a family, you understand the joys, the pain and love that can only be felt in that family unit. To be able to help our family grow, we have been blessed with the opportunity to find our children through the process of adoption. Yes I did say blessed. I feel blessed because I have been challenged in ways that I never knew were possible and have grow immensely because of those challenges. Although I may not ever be able to carry my children in my womb, I feel extremely blessed because when our children inter our family though adoption, we will not be growing our family with just children, but with their birth parents as well. I say that because they will always be an integral part of what makes up our family.
I am so grateful for a father in heaven who knows us so individually and understands what we need to help us be the best that we can be. I have always been the type of person who is there to serve others and take care of everyone else but when it comes to serving me, I didn't need it because I could do it on my own.
When turning to the decision to adopt, I realized that being able to have my own children was something that I personally was not going to be able to do. For a while this was something I struggled with because it is very hard for me feel like I need the service of someone else. But I now understand that for me to be able to be a mother I must allow someone to serve me in a way that I will never be able to repay them.
Although I will never fully understand the emotions that a birth mother and father may go through when they allow their baby to be adopted, I do feel that it is a completely selfless service that they are giving.
I feel that this service or sacrifice is similar to that which Christ made for each and everyone of us. He suffered in the garden of Gethsemane, bleeding from every pore, for our sins. He then hung on the cross and died so that we all my live again. That sacrifice was made because we could not have done it for our selves. He came to be our savor and to provide a way that we could be happy in this life and return home to our father in heaven. The atonement wasn't something that we could do but it had to be done by our brother, Jesus Christ.
Although extremely difficult, birth parents make a huge sacrifice for their unborn child and for the family that is adopting that child. It is not something that they have to do but they understand that it is about something bigger then themselves. Because of their completely selfless act I someday will be a mother and Sean will be a father. Because of this choice that they will make, our family will grow and like the sacrifice that Christ made on our behalf, their sacrifice for us will never be forgotten.
When you have a family, you understand the joys, the pain and love that can only be felt in that family unit. To be able to help our family grow, we have been blessed with the opportunity to find our children through the process of adoption. Yes I did say blessed. I feel blessed because I have been challenged in ways that I never knew were possible and have grow immensely because of those challenges. Although I may not ever be able to carry my children in my womb, I feel extremely blessed because when our children inter our family though adoption, we will not be growing our family with just children, but with their birth parents as well. I say that because they will always be an integral part of what makes up our family.
I am so grateful for a father in heaven who knows us so individually and understands what we need to help us be the best that we can be. I have always been the type of person who is there to serve others and take care of everyone else but when it comes to serving me, I didn't need it because I could do it on my own.
When turning to the decision to adopt, I realized that being able to have my own children was something that I personally was not going to be able to do. For a while this was something I struggled with because it is very hard for me feel like I need the service of someone else. But I now understand that for me to be able to be a mother I must allow someone to serve me in a way that I will never be able to repay them.
Although I will never fully understand the emotions that a birth mother and father may go through when they allow their baby to be adopted, I do feel that it is a completely selfless service that they are giving.
I feel that this service or sacrifice is similar to that which Christ made for each and everyone of us. He suffered in the garden of Gethsemane, bleeding from every pore, for our sins. He then hung on the cross and died so that we all my live again. That sacrifice was made because we could not have done it for our selves. He came to be our savor and to provide a way that we could be happy in this life and return home to our father in heaven. The atonement wasn't something that we could do but it had to be done by our brother, Jesus Christ.
Although extremely difficult, birth parents make a huge sacrifice for their unborn child and for the family that is adopting that child. It is not something that they have to do but they understand that it is about something bigger then themselves. Because of their completely selfless act I someday will be a mother and Sean will be a father. Because of this choice that they will make, our family will grow and like the sacrifice that Christ made on our behalf, their sacrifice for us will never be forgotten.
Thank you for that post. I needed it. This process has not been easy for either one of us. Thank you for sharing your wonderful, spiritual thoughts. You two will make great parents.
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